Saturday, August 23, 2008

Effective Communication Skills

The first words of a baby would probably be “amma”, “ma”, or “mammy”; he would put together the voices in his tiny head and try to address the one person who brought him to the world; his mother. From this day onwards he will be involved in a continuous learning process of various communication skills through out his life. A major part of his personality would be modeled as a result of his communicating nature with the rest of the world around him.


In my part of the world, where I come from, the initial step in learning to communicate is traditionally celebrated as a dignified ceremony. At around the age of 3, the child is being dictated his first alphabet by a respected and educated elder, on an auspicious time. This is believed to be a blessing for the child and a prerequisite for a successful education. Thus, this ceremony symbolizes the importance given to the process of learning and communication in my culture.


Furthermore, the importance of effective communication is highly evident in the context of social networking. The ability to be understood and not to be misunderstood by your friends and colleagues is as important as surviving in the work place. Ideas which are not conveyed properly or not interpreted properly could even give rise to situations concerning life and death. Effective communication is a skill that needs to be developed over time and different techniques of adaptation should be used at different places.


However, common obstacles for proper comprehension are the language and the cultural background. Being the international language, today English is studied by almost every child around the globe. It is like a bridge which crosses one person from the northern hemisphere to reach another in the southern hemisphere. However the standard of English education is not the same everywhere and it is spoken in different dialects with different accents depending on the geographical location. Therefore two people from China and America could be conversing in the common tongue but both could face the serious problem of understanding each other’s exact ideas and expressions.


Hence, learning effective communication and thereby identifying and overcoming the barriers involved in it is of great importance because we need to interact with all sorts of people from all parts of the world in our life time.

8 comments:

Brad Blackstone said...

Thank you, Vijani, for this detailed post. You comprehensively discuss various communication principles then relate some of those to your own community. I find it very interesting that "the initial step in learning to communicate is traditionally celebrated as a dignified ceremony." I would like to know more about that.

I'd also like to know how particular com skills are important to you. That's an aspect of this assignment that you might have missed.

Benjamin Ng said...

Hi Vijani,

I loved the bit about the ‘ceremony’. Is there a name for it? Does it take place across all social classes? What happens during these ceremonies? It’s really interesting to see the emphasis on learning on communication in other cultures. My degree of normalcy for a child’s first words would be the parents capturing the moment on camera or in their hearts, but to have it formalized in a proper ceremony makes it take on a whole new meaning.

I also agree that language and cultural background can be common obstacles to comprehension. It is not uncommon to say things that are potentially offensive in another person’s culture even though it is perfectly normal in yours. However, it is a challenge though to know all the sensitivities of different cultures and to apply them appropriately.

Ben

vijani said...

Thank you very much for your comments, Prof Brad and Ben..I am really pleased about your curiosity regarding the ceremony, that I happened to describe in the post.

It is a traditional event in Sri Lanka,conducted mainly by the Sinhalese Buddhist people. So there is an essence of religion added to it also. Its called "akuru kiyaweme uthsawaya" in Sinhalese, which means "the ceremony of reading words". The parents would first make offerings of flowers and lamps to Buddha and get blessings to the child. After the child is being dictated his first alphabet he would be asked to select an article out of a set of objects, like a book, a pen, a box of crayon, a flute etc. Then the elders make deductions about the child's future carrier based on his choice.

Kheng Aik said...

Wow. That is a very interesting glimpse into your culture there, Vijani. I expect you experienced the same thing as well? Out of curiosity, what did you yourself choose during "the ceremony of reading words" and what was the deduction on it?

Also, as a worldwide language, it is rather ironic that there are still so many nuances and inflections in practicing English. Still, that calls into question then what is the correct way to communicate in English? By most accounts, the "correct" way is to practice English the way "natives" do, but I have had my own doubts on that.

2D 2012 said...

Hello Vijani.

I really like the part where you brought us into your culture of having a diginifed ceremony during the inital step of learning how to communicate.

Cultures as mentioned, do play a pivotal role in the ways and means one communicates.It itself can also be a barrier as mentioned last week.

Probably you could include the importance of communication in your life, like for example, communicating with people of a culture that is different from yours ( eg. Singaporeans) .

2D 2012 said...

P.s
Richer Chinese people in the living in the dynasties period do undergo this ceremony as well, whereby the baby will pick an item of choice and the priest will make deductions on his/her future career.

Gwen said...

I like the way you start of you essay! Pretty interesting  I read somewhere that all human are born with the same communication abilities. It is culture which moulds us to who we are. That’s why we all communicate differently.
Credits for having such a large form! I do not like to strain my eyes :)
Anyway, you can try to shorten your paragraph to make your essay clearer :)
Gwen

Danielle said...

Hi Vijani!

I think its great that you brought in aspects of your culture into your entry, and that you also intertwined it so well to bring across the importance of communication. That there's even a proper and grand ceremony to celebrate it. I'm looking forward to reading / hearing more about your culture!

PS: I'm just as curious as Kheng Aik. Which item did you pick? =D